Playful parenting: 5 ways to help children learn through play

3rd May 19 | Family

Play is a vital part of child development – and it’s fun for parents too. Lisa Salmon explains how to be a playtime pro.

Loving father playing with his son

Parenting isn’t just about looking after your kids – it’s about having fun and playing too. And through that play, babies, tots and youngsters can learn crucial life lessons.

Through smiling, singing, modelling, imitation and games, for example, young children can learn about social interaction. Even simply playing with common household items – like cups, empty containers and pans – they’ll be learning about objects’ feel and quality, and what can be done with them.

Learning a range of socioemotional and cognitive skills, including self-regulation and language, is also an important part of child development – and this can be practiced through early interactions with others, including parent-child play.

Evidence also shows that secure attachment and bonding with a parent, which often occurs during parent-child play, is important for a child’s emotional wellbeing, including stress and anxiety reduction.

“Research has firmly established that the early years are a critical stage of child development, during which there’s a huge opportunity to shape a child’s growth and learning potential,” says Sarah Bouchie, head of the Learning Through Play in Early Childhood programme at The LEGO Foundation. “As children’s first playmates and teachers, parents have the chance to give them a head-start on learning through play that will last beyond their earliest years.”

And parents overwhelmingly want to get stuck in and play. Recent data collected from almost 13,000 mums and dads for the LEGO Play Well report found 89% say they enjoy playtime as much as their child does, 94% think play helps them get to know their child better, and 91% also believe play time is good for their own wellbeing.

What is playful parenting?

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Good news – being a playful parent really doesn’t need a lot of time or toys. Quality play moments can happen during everyday routines, such as cooking, feeding, bath-time and bedtime, using readily available materials such as tissue paper and cardboard, which can be used as toys.

After some ideas? After studying research and parent-child experiences, the LEGO Foundation teamed up with play experts – they suggest playful parenting (particularly for children from birth to three years of age) should involve one or more of the following five characteristics…

1. Joyful play

Father and son in the kitchen. kid wants a delicious hot cake. Young man with son, happy family
Turn everyday tasks into playtime (iStock/PA)

It couldn’t be simpler. Parents can make eye-contact with their baby during play to communicate the joy of interaction, by smiling extra-wide and laughing, as well as using gestures such as clapping and high-fiving when a young child completes a tricky task. Young infants especially are greatly entertained by unexpected events during play, so a parent can provide joyful play by building excitement during peek-a-boo or a simple jack-in-the-box game.

2. Active engagement
Parents can encourage their child’s absorption in an activity by elaborating on it and playing along. For example, if a child is pretending to fly a spaceship to the moon, the parent could contribute to the story by making “Whoosh!” sound effects, or further building the story by suggesting objects that could represent the moon (e.g. a pan lying against a wall). Maintaining eye-contact during play, lifting the child during the spaceship’s ‘lift-off’ etc, will all contribute to engagement.

3. Social interaction
While parents can play alongside their child, it’s likely that deeper learning comes from socially-interactive parent-child play. This means that during pretend play, for example, parents can take on a character that must negotiate, plan, and work together with their child’s character to accomplish something. This kind of teamwork during play feels socially-interactive and is an ideal time to discuss feelings and practice reasoning.

Young woman with his toddler son playing with colorful plastic blocks. Family leisure activity
Interaction is a vital part of play (iStock/PA)

4. Meaningful play
Early parent-child play allows children to make sense of their world, by pointing to things in the environment and expressing what they are. During pretend play, for example, a parent can model how to use a toy telephone. Young children and infants are likely to imitate this behaviour within their own play, serving as practice for real-life.

5. Repetitive play
Tots love to explore and try things over and over again in play. For example, they’ll fill a container with small objects and empty them all again in a repeating pattern. To parents, this may look like pointless repetition, but by repeating the process toddlers are experimenting with the physical properties of the objects. In this way, parents can think of repetitive, or iterative, play as mini-scientific experiments. They can support this by playfully encouraging the tweaking and repeating process.

“Examples of parent-child play are all around us – in the supermarket, playground and home,” adds Bouchie. “What’s more, both children and parents benefit from playful interactions making play a great way to strengthen the bonds between parents and their children and help them develop and grow.”

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